The situation we are currently facing is unprecedented. It is not what we expected 2021 to look like when we welcomed in the new year after 2020. Time and again our conversations are about motivation – this is not unique to our young men and many adults are also struggling with motivation in lockdown 6.
There are a number of resources out there to assist families and this week I share an article from reachout.com in an effort to support families in these challenging times. Please know you are not alone and as a College we want to work in partnership with families to support all of our young men to flourish.
If you need any assistance or support please contact your son’s Tutor Teacher, House or Wellbeing Leader or the College Counsellors who will be able to assist.
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I hope that the article goes some way to assisting families during this extended period of remote learning.
For the full article or more resources please visit https://parents.au.reachout.com/common-concerns/everydayissues/things-to-try-school-and-education/how-to-motivateyour-teenager-for-school
Many teenagers have found focusing on their studies difficult without the regularity of their normal school schedule. For some young people, the lockdown measures have worsened existing issues they have with school, such as social anxiety or motivation. On top of this, with so much uncertainty, many teenagers are thinking ‘What’s the point?’ when faced with assignments, exams and changing routines. That's why, in these uncertain times, you might be wondering how to motivate your teen.
‘[My teenager is] anxious, confused [and] fearful … of the unknown, [of] what lies ahead.’ (VIC Metro)
Here is our guide to supporting your teenager to get motivated again for school.
Having an open and honest conversation about this topic can often bring up new and important feelings. You might want to start by asking your teen if it’s a good time to chat. If it’s not, schedule a time to talk later. Ask them lots of open -ended questions, like ‘Why do you think that is?’ or ‘How can I/we and your teachers help you with that?’ to encourage them to open up.
Here are a few things your teen might be feeling:
‘I’m doing the assigned work, but I feel like I’m not learning
anything.’ (Regional NSW)
It’s easy to get bogged down in talking about problems. One of the best ways to re-engage your teenager with school is to
talk about the parts they enjoy and find meaningful. These might be:
It can be a good idea to have a chat with the staff at your teenager’s school to explore whether they’re able to help. Start by explaining that your teen is finding it hard to get motivated to engage with school. It’s likely that this is an issue they’ve dealt with before, and they should be able to talk through some options with you.
Some examples might include:
Once you know why your teenager isn’t feeling motivated and you have some options around the help that’s available, try to work out a clear plan. Young people value and benefit from consistency and regularity in their lives. Over the past while, this may have been lost. That’s why it’s often best to start small and give your teenager time to adjust before trying to solve the whole problem and getting them back to ‘normal’.
Some examples include:
With an overload of time at home and on the computer, many teens have formed unhealthy relationships with digital media. Constant exposure to news and information about the pandemic might have led to a sense of doom and gloom about the world and their future, so some balance might be healthy.
‘Screen time has always been a battle and I have always tried to control it, but it seems that I am more flexible with the COVID situation because the options are limited at home. They cannot go across the road to the park anymore.’ (VIC Metro)
Here are some tips if you’re finding it hard to get your teenager into healthy digital habits:
Remember that building a better and more engaged relationship with school is something that takes time. Progress, not perfection, is the key